“These are not
battle scars.
These are not
proof of survival.
My riddled body is
so poetic.
The fact that they
proves I was
very sad and very sick.
The fact that they
are scar tissued
proves I am
This was never supposed to be
There is
in pain.”
Michelle K., Truth About Scars.  (via harukimuracallme)


a reminder that you can and should have relationships that inspire you and make you feel safe and loved without expectations of romance or sex

“Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it’s all a male fantasy: that you’re strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren’t catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you’re unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”

Margaret Atwood, The Robber Bride

I follow Margaret Atwood on twitter because she interacts with really funny nature accounts (she’ll rt something like @DucksIncorporated or @Birdwatchersunited and the tweet will be like, “The beautiful spring feathers of the meadowlark.”) Anyway. It’s easy to forget that she’s also a very dank writer.

(via christinefriar)

You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman.

This line, oof.

Been spending a lot of time lately trying to untangle how a lifetime of patriarchy has fucked up my own sexual agency. Nothing like getting derailed inside your own head by worries of how you look in the moment, whether you measure up to some external standard…

(via queeracula)

21 Ways to Stop a Conversation about Diversity


Circle [bold] the ones you’ve said & put an X by the ones you can’t understand why they would stop a conversation on diversity.

  1. I don’t see color. We’re all just human beings.
  2. We have more similarities than differences.
  3. I think deep down we’re all the same.
  4. Racism/sexism happens all over the world.
  5. I think some people use diversity as an excuse.
  6. I think identifying into groups only further divides us.
  7. There are lots of other diversity issues other than race and gender.
  8. I’ve never seen that happen before. Are you sure it happened?
  9. Why does everything have to be so politically correct?
  10. I was just joking.
  11. Things are a lot better than they used to be. Don’t you agree?
  12. We’d hire more women and people of color, but are they qualified?
  13. I love everyone.
  14. Do you really think it’s that bad?
  15. I’m so glad you’re not like one of them.
  16. You know, you’re a credit to your people.
  17. You don’t see other races complaining.
  18. I think its reverse racism/sexism.
  19. America is the best place to live.
  20. Some of my best friends are colored.
  21. You speak such good English, where did you learn it from?

Excerpted from “The Art of Mindful Facilitation" by Lee Mun Wah. Copyright © 2004. All Rights Reserved.  www.stirfryseminars.com

The full handout is here and includes tips on how to respond when someone is offended by your comments.

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Laverne Cox by Luke Fontana

ok had my VMAs fun let’s get back to work. Don’t lose sight of  b/c that’s what they want. . Don’t forget.

When so many men of color are truly from oppression, we shouldn’t sit idle and assume everyone lives in Bey and Jay-Z’s idyll.

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